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Some AnswersFrom: Steven
Subject: Philosophy
Date/Time 2009-04-28 19:07:24
Remote IP: 76.247.139.94
Message>>>Hello everyone,
>>>First time poster here.
Hello Michael, and welcome to the list.
>>>My question is this: Does receiving
>>>anal sex (either man or woman) weaken
>>>one's sexual well-being or the strength of the PC region?
>>>I am wondering if anal play, which causes the anus to relax
>>>and stretch will actually have negative effects on sexual practice.
There's not a lot of information in written sources, and it's not
talked about too much--in part because there is still probably
some unspoken stigma behind it or some misplaced unrecognized homophobia,
even in the case of male-on-female anal sex.
So in that case, I'll answer you as thoroughly as I can, given what I know.
In general, the answer to your question is this:
It depends on how it is done--just the same as could be said of genital sex.
Genital sex can weaken one's sexual well-being and/or cause damage
if done improperly also; anal sex is no different in that regard.
In fact, in the case of genital sex, that's one of main reasons for
doing the sexual practices--to enhance rather than weaken.
Let me now just list as many things I can think of with regard to anal sex
and, in particular, its relationship to energy practices that I'm aware of:
1. While a number of WOMEN don't like it, there are also
a good number of others who find the experience uniquely pleasurable.
Some MEN (in the homoerotic sense) enjoy receiving it because
of the indirect prostate stimulation.
2. It is a statistic (see "Tao of Sexology", I think) that gay men who
are "bottoms", i.e. recipients of anal sex, have far fewer prostate problems
than "tops" and heterosexual men.
3. SOME regular anal stimulation can, in a health sense, reduce and diminish
the occurrence of hemorrhoids.
4. The anus is a sensitive area and needs more delicate care (than,
say, the vagina) with regard to sexual activity. Too forceful of
activity OR not enough lubrication OR not enough warmup foreplay
of the area can cause damage to the tissues and muscles in the region,
which can cause the problems you mention.
5. When receiving anal sex, or participating in anal play,
it is CRITICAL that you begin slowly. It is CRITICAL that enough
lubrication is used and that sexual actions are done delicately
and not forcefully. It is preferable to use a finger or other thin
object to start with, before proceeding to anal sex if penile
penetration is desired.
6. SOME people (male OR female) who receive anal sex, like to
purchase and use the JADE EGG that is used in the "Taoist female sexual practices"
for practice in tightening/toning the muscles and tissues in the anus, as
well as sexual energy training. Caveat: Women who use the jade egg
for anal practice should use a different jade egg for their vaginal
work.
7. Without using a jade egg, the PC muscle can be strengthened
through the use of Kegel exercises, the same ones that are used
for strengthening in preparation for genital sex (or for general health).
8. Keeping in mind the issues in items #4-#7, there is no need to
worry about a weakening of the muscles in the anal region. In fact,
by employing the methods above (as well as through anal sex itself)
the anal region should become STRONGER. If the anal region becomes
instead becomes weaker, it is because of not following the lessons
of items #4 and #5--the problem will correct itself upon fixing that and
employing items #6 and #7.
9. A lot of psychological issues and emotions can be stored/trapped
in the anal region, and anal play that is done delicately in a
secure environment can be a means of release.
10. Psychology II: For any sexual activity relating to the
anus to be beneficial, you need to be able to answer yes to the
following questions:
--A. Do all partners WANT to do the act?
(no partner should ever feel coerced)
--B. Does the act feel pleasurable to all involved?
(no partner should be feeling pain during the activity)
--C. Does the act feel emotionally/psychological good to all?
(no partner should feel shame, feel coerced, or feel reluctant;
all partners should feel joy and have an open heart)
11. The same warnings about genital sex apply to anal sex:
--If you do it, do it in moderation.
--Too frequent sexual activity depletes energy.
--Regular ejaculation by the giver can deplete his energy
12. Just as women receive a burst of sexual energy from a male partner
if/when the partner ejaculates into her, the recipient of anal sex
(be it a man or a woman) receives the same said burst if/when the
partner ejaculates into the anus. Thus, for the same reasons as
genital sex, the giver should conserve the number of such ejaculations.
13. The sexual energy that is being transmitted between the two
partners during anal sex can be circulated by each into the orbit,
which can be a means of capturing the energy that is activated during
the act.
I hope that helps . . .
For a female perspective, maybe someone like Wendy can chime in here.
Best,
Steven
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