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sex, love, and finding a partnerFrom: Steven
Subject: General
Date/Time 2010-06-05 01:40:32
Remote IP: 76.252.71.57
Message>>>There are some issues you raised that aren't relevant in my case,
>>>like not really wanting a partner on some level because
>>>of the sacrifices that would be made for a relationship, stuff like that
Well, I was just providing some examples . . .
But at the same time, what a person feels inside, and what they project are not
always in alignment. Of course, some of the spiritual tools help
bring these things into alignment as a natural consequence through time.
Oftentimes people perceive things that don't reflect what we feel.
It sucks sometimes, but that's how it is.
>>>People have often thought I was shy or aloof when I intended no such thing.
Well, oftentimes if you appear shy or aloof--regardless of the
actual reason--it is going to appear to be lack of confidence or appear
to be that you'd rather be left alone. Your intentions don't necessary
have to reflect how you are perceived.
>>>I tend to be fascinated by things that most people
>>>think are kind of weird. I could go on for hours
>>>about curious objects in the Cydonia region of Mars
>>>that are probably the ruins of an ancient abandoned
>>>alien city and the investigation done by Richard Hoagland and others.
The world is a big place. If you find it interesting, there are going
to be other people who do so as well. Possible partners included.
There's no reason to make excuses for what you find interesting.
If you like it, great! And there are bound to be others who do so as well.
Stay true to yourself.
>>>Well, the way I look at it is if I don't have a partner
>>>that is frustrating enough, but not having one AND not feeling
>>>like I need one is two reasons to be depressed instead of one.
I suggest you examine your comment "not feeling like I need one".
Is your desire for a partner really just a desire for a sexual outlet?
My question here is not a judgement; just something to think about.
If true, there's not necessarily anything wrong with that. Some
people are quite happy doing their own thing and are happy just having
friends, and it's only the "sex" part that they miss.
If, on the other hand, it's the close companionship that you miss,
then the sex is really just an afterthought. And like I said, if you
are healthy, things should probably work just fine if and when a romance
should heat up.
Think about it this way: Do you worry about bread in your house
being moldy if you don't actually have any groceries? You need
to get the groceries first. ;)
>>>But now that I think about it, there was another time earlier
>>>in life when my sex drive crashed when I was failing in
>>>every way, then it came back when I was in a different situation. :-)
There you go.
>>>By the way, I haven't heard anything about sex drives
>>>and erections being a liver issue, I always heard it was
>>>more about the kidneys.
Kidneys are where the sexual energy is produced.
Liver is what actually expresses it.
To help you remember: Wood gives you "Wood", LOL
>>>I read in that other thread you suggested that
>>>1.5 to 2 hours of practice per day isn't considered much.
>>>Wow. I've never been in a situation where I was able to
>>>devote that much time to it due to all other demands
>>>life throws in my way.
Actually, I mentioned that that was about the MAX I could manage to do
when I was full well busy with my life in grad school. I was
also making a comparison to the 5-6 hour/day average I do when
I'm on a hermit retreat, which is only why I used the word "only".
I didn't mean it as a commentary toward how much other people do.
No, I understand how challenging it can be for some to be
able to do much in the way of daily practice. If you can do
*some* practice, at least semi-regularly, then kudos!
Cheers,
Steven
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