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Um . . . SDFrom: Steven
Subject: General
Date/Time 2008-08-04 00:29:38
Remote IP: 65.1.145.95
MessageHi SD,
Nothing wrong with doing what you are doing
if it's what you want to do!!
And of course feel free to post about your experiences!
I just wanted to say that you shouldn't feel that you
*have to stop* because you've already posted about it before.
Posts about "perceived flaws" can create imaginary pressures . . .
The addiction problem has much to do with
a fight between a desire and an idealized picture of behavior.
Deep down inside, we want "X".
Partly due to opinions of others and partly due to some artificial
standard we set for ourselves, we tell ourselves that we don't want "X".
However, even though we have what we think are rational arguments for
not wanting "X", deep inside we still want "X" anyway!
It becomes a battle, with no clear winner!
If we do "X", then we feel guilty about it and beat ourselves up
because it doesn't match this argument we tell ourselves.
If we don't do "X", we feel frustrated because ultimately we still
want "X" and we feel like we are denying ourselves a great pleasure.
Trying to deny an internal desire by stopping a behavior through
"willpower" will not end an addiction. It will only lead to
frustration, and the addiction will continue (in my opinion).
This was another reason for my previous post.
It appeared to me that deep down you don't really want to give
up these things, and so then you are "battling", i.e. making
yourself miserable.
This is why I said "don't worry about it".
We can often be our own worst critic.
Smiles,
Steven
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