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I rock! Your wife comments on PUA. INVENT YOUR OWN SEX CLUB RULES.From: Michael Winn
Subject: General
Date/Time 2007-01-13 01:54:42
Remote IP: 66.32.15.105
MessagePietro,
No need to feel I was attacking you or PU - I was simply pointing out the limitations in the light of questions raised about its relation to spiritual development. I'm puzzled as to why you think I might have economic interests at stake in this discussion.
I support people having sex for all kinds of reasons that may not appear to be spiritual initially. Even a one night stand can be liberating and educational.
You think you are just relieving a sexually physical itch. You explore the itch, and it leads you somewhere else. You can start at the jing level of attraction - which is pure body attraction and sharing that, and slowly work your way up. That is the way most men do it. Its the PU way as well. I started that way, until it became too limiting.
or you can start at the shen level of attraction and work your way down into the jing level. Or dig at both ends of the tunnel simultaneously, if you are lucky.
But eventually, you work your way past the hormone/DNA level of programming. The lust wears off and then you are in therapy mode, peeling off the layers of the personality built around sexual polarity. PU might well be a great tool for some to peel off those initial layers more quickly, strip away the defenses and illusions people have about sex.
I much prefer people to have real sex than fantasies about it - as long as they take responsibility for their actions, no different than other areas of life. There are no escaping consequences of actions, that is why we have free will and bodies, to give that process definition. With sex, the responsiblities extend to issues of disease, to emotional processes that demand completion, to honesty in intentions, to effects on social relations, to economic issues and issues of child raising. Sex is LOADED with responsibilty, unless you go numb.
Once you have sex, you are into the core channel of someone else's body, and the soul is watching, waiting to see if the other half of the mirror recognizes itself at that moment. The moment of mutual recognition is love, it is what stabilizes the neutral ground between the male and female poles. Are you brave enough - or aware enough - to seize that moment and serve the mutual evolution of your souls?
It is one thing to keep eye contact during the seduction phase. It is another to stay in soul contract. But that requires self-cultivation. And it is hard to get two people at the same level and grow at more or elss similar rates, in the same direction. That is why sexual relationships are the toughest spiritual path.
I don't believe any one person can offer another total completion. I have had many dozens and dozens of lovers in my lifetime - but only a handful rate as conscious soul contacts, and those came as I cultivated myself more and awoke to who I was. Then I could see who others were, beneath the body and personality.
Those became part of my integration, my alchemical vessel - the others were mostly a study in rabbitry, or lessons in what I didn't want/need.
So please don't think I am trying to shut down your PU offering - I haven't studied it deeply, I am sure there are all lkinds of people exploring it on all kinds of levels. I appreciate your sharing your views and stimulating a lot of thought on a tough topic. If it helped you find your "spine" in your relationships, I say bravo.
love, chi, blessings,
michael
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